While I disagree with a lot of the specifics of what tajen said, I can definitely say that I have a lot of female friends and acquaintances who conflate “men they can casually date due to dating apps” with “men they have a chance of marrying”.

They always wonder why they seem to get ghosted or why their dream guy ends up “cheating” on them. It’s not really a mystery from my point of view.

Is this happening in a large city? What ages are your male and female friends getting married?

OK rather than outright calling this out as "redpill bullshit" can you refute it with any substance?

Refute what exactly? A bunch of assumptions and pseudo-statistics?

Well, yeah, sure, why not?

"A bunch of assumptions and pseudo-statistics" could be Hacker News' official tag line. What makes this thread special?